Marriage advice I WISH I’d had

Marriage advice I WISH I’d had

Gerald Rogers was divorced after 16 years of marriage. Recently he wrote an eye-opening, public confession on his blog… my heart goes out to him and I couldn’t agree with him more.

MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD by Gerald Rogers

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had…

1) Never stop courting.
Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART.
Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again.
You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her.
Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER…
Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions:
It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8) Allow your woman to JUST BE.
When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and judgemental she will trust you and open her soul to you…

DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY…
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY…
Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT.
Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY…
To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…
And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE…
The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing… (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centred, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE…
You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT.
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER…
The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY.
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE.
In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.”

If you’re inspired by Gerald’s words, please share this with a friend today.

You can find out more about Gerald on his blog at http://geraldrogers.com

 

What screws us up most in life

What screws us up most in life

“… is the picture in our heads of how it is supposed to be.”

This is so true. How often do you catch yourself doing exactly this!!?! Thinking about the things you wish you had done, the things you wish you owned, the things you feel you’ve missed out on and the way you wish your life was.

It’s so easy to focus on the ‘have not’s’. The perceived failings, the difference between where you are and where you wish you were. Many people spend their lives this way, imposing an abstract sense of failure upon themselves, that does nothing but stir up feelings of inadequacy and anxiety. What if we just stopped doing that to ourselves? Imagine how much better the quality of life would be if we learnt to focus on what was in front of us, rather than what we ‘wish’ was in front of us.

We all need to come back to the moment, to ‘now’ and let go of the reality we imagine, the past we miss, or the gaps we perceive between our ‘wants’ and ‘have’s.  Don’t wish your life away in this type of pattern… Focus on what you feel, what you sense, what you love right now, and spread your wings and soar.

Focus on how good ‘right now’ feels. Living in this exact moment, ‘now’ is profoundly liberating. Everything becomes possible again – pain recedes into another dimension, and opportunity presents. Try it, I promise you it will deliver you the deepest sense of well-being, the greatest relief from stress and the deepest sense of spiritual connection and gratitude for who you are and what you have been given.

Amber | www.intothesoul.com

The Eight of Cups

The Eight of Cups

The Eight of Cups

The 8 of Cups, Card Interpretation and Meaning

February 19th-28th

Pisces in Saturn

 

  • Turning away from what is offered – rejection of that which you are a part of. For example, stability, opportunity. It is a turning away from something that is benign, something that does not imply an immediate threat. The figure in the 8 of cups is not running away, nor are they hiding. They are slipping away as they chose to, not in flight from imminent threat.
  • Inability or refusal to confront fears or phobias, possibly indicating excessive shyness also.
  • Relinquishing or refusing to take on responsibility or refusal to be accountable.
  • Hiding your true self, masking who you are, and revealing it only to the select few. A second or secret life. An inner life.
  • Personal insecurities, lack of self-esteem – do not be ashamed to let others see you for who you really are.
  • The party, or event that’s a flop …. ouch, if you get this card turning up around an event you’ve got planned – you’re in trouble, drastic changes are needed

Rx:

  • Wealth material pleasures – security, money etc.
  • Depression – do not dwell in the gloom of the past when possibilities surround you… open your eyes, do not live internally.
  • Transcendence

The eight of cups shows a figure heading away to begin again elsewhere. This card is about a new beginning and a desire or need for change. It implies the necessity of giving something up, this something may be material – the house or life the figure is leaving behind, or it could be emotional – a fear, phobia, or situation that must no longer be hidden from…. a truth must be faced.

Often when this card comes up the querent or the person this card is relating to may be experiencing depression, or finding the circumstance the card talks about as very difficult and sad. In the Mythic Deck this card refers to Psyche’s visit to the underworld. The underworld is a place of mourning and therefore the theme of depression associated with the card is amplified.

We must also remember that in choosing to visit the underworld we are voluntarily giving up all hope of all hope for the future… which I see as in visiting the underworld we give up our autonomy and we have no choice but to accept what is presented to us, or ”the rules”. Our future, whilst we are in this realm is no longer one we can manipulate or make choices about.

Therefore, visiting the underworld, or having the 8 of cups present, can also be seen as voluntarily giving up hope for the future – or giving up the future as had thought it would be… this speaks to me especially in terms of one who is heartbroken has lost their ‘great love’ or is bankrupted and now the future looks nothing like they had pictured it.

On a lighter note; I also see in this card – the holiday that isn’t a holiday… Other’s might be thinking you’re going on vacation but to you – its ‘work’… and whilst you’re putting on a brave face about it all, you’d much rather be sticking with your normal routine than going on this ‘vacation’. Think Disney Land with the kids when you’d rather be on the beach in Tahiti!! Going camping instead of staying at a nice bed and breakfast….   Saturn in Pisces – weak Pisces being overpowered by Saturn’s rigidity and heaviness. Decan: 0 to 10º Pisces

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com

Are you Psychic?

Are you Psychic?

What we recognise today as being ”psychic” or having ‘psychic ability’ is really just a referral to the degree of skill or ‘ease’ with which some people are able to access or make a spiritual connection.

Basically the core of all spiritual connection is in working with energy – being able to understand it and channel it.

Intuitive information is always energetic. You might receive it most clearly as a ‘vision’, a ‘gut feeling’, a ‘spoken word’ or ‘sound’ or even a ‘smell’ or an emotional experience such as ‘déjà vu’.

Everyone is able to pick up on it, some people just make it seem a lot easier than others. This is either because it comes to them ‘naturally’ or they have spent a great deal of time developing their ability to connect.are you psychic

Medium – ability to communicate with Spirits:

  • Hearing your name called, but no one is there
  • Sudden chills, even though there is no source of cold air
  • A very, very dry throat that comes on all of a sudden frequently making you cough, which then passes as suddenly as it came on. (it’s a bit like your mouth has all of a sudden gone bone dry)
  • Goose pimples or bumps breaking out without cause though if you pay attention to this you will start to see that it occurs in a way that seems to affirm internal questions or ideas… it almost seems the equivalent of a ‘spiritual’ pat on the back
  • Very strong smells that seem to invade your senses from nowhere; these smells could be either pleasant or unpleasant and you will be the only one smelling it
  • Experiencing extreme emotions with little to no external stimuli
  • Seeing energy/orbs floating through the air
  • Strong desires for things you don’t understand – like an urge to go somewhere (beach, countryside, airport, train depot, truck or ship yard) or visit a particular place (specific address, particular cemetery site, seemingly random spot or plot of land) , or take part in an activity that you actually have no interest in

Clairvoyant – signs of being psychic or intuitive, having clairvoyant ability:

  • Visions that make no sense to you – like watching a snippet of a movie. coming unbidden, containing information that you have not seen before
  • Dreams where information is being shared with you that was previously unknown
  • Images and symbols flashing through your mind
  • ”Knowing” although you don’t know, the answer to questions, or the outcome of situations
  • Knowing another person’s thoughts or feelings instinctively
  • Hearing conversations, or voices; almost like you’ve suddenly tuned into a radio station
  • Feeling the physical symptoms of another person – you may experience extreme pain, indigestion, headaches, allergy symptoms, and so forth. This passes as you are not suffering from any of these issues yourself.
  • Your ‘internal dialogue’ making no sense to you, or introducing you to new ideas, strange words, and concepts
  • Seeing ‘different time’s’ or periods in history
  • Flashback experiences that do not involve you
  • Very vivid dreams
  • very strong (sickening, upsetting, strange) gut reactions to things
  • knowing ahead of time, and with a sense of certainty, that something is going to happen

We should all make the most of our psychic and intuitive abilities. Spirituality is an important factor in mental and emotional health and brings a great sense of purpose and meaning to those that put effort into developing this area of their lives. The benefits also include stress relief, acceptance and appreciation of life circumstances and an inner resilience and tolerance that is often absent in people we encounter in fast paced societies.

Use meditation to focus in on and develop your spirituality and awareness. The more you feel and work on your union with ‘creator’ and your sense of being a part of a universal connection the greater your ability in all the other areas and related disciplines will be.

For more on working with your psychic ability: click here Divination or go to http://intothesoul.com/clairvoyance/

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com

 

 

Manifest? To Make shit happen!

Manifest? To Make shit happen!

For those who are wondering  what “manifest” means it is to ‘make something real or apparent’, or ‘make shit happen’.

[dropcap]A[/dropcap]ffirming your intentions, desires and gratitude to the universe or spirit is one of the most powerful way to manifest your intentions. into your life. Positively affirming your commitment to your path – whatever it may be – and focusing your mind upon it regularly does deliver results.

Affirmations ground and build energy. With every repetition they enhance your conscious awareness and focus of your intent and further align your will with the universe and spirit.  They can be used to enhance any and all actions, desires and goals.

The Abundance Prayer below is a powerful and very successful incantation that has been used by many over a long period of time with much success. Reports of successful change that (seemingly) resulted from this prayer or spells use include; unexpected winnings and dividends – such as $8000 coming into one woman within a week of using this spell. Other feedback includes long awaited and hoped for telephone calls and invitations coming from love interests and ex-lovers, a job promotion finally being improved, and a house finally being sold after many months on the market with no interest. You can add to the words here to suit your purposes, or if you prefer, just repeat it as it is, all the while keeping your mind firmly focused on that which you are wishing to ‘manifest’. Be it health, wealth, promotion, true love, pregnancy, success, etc, this does work and will bring results for you to as long as you put your energy and faith into it.

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From The Light of God that I Am.

From The Love of God that I Am.

From The Power of God that I Am.

From The Heart of God that I Am.

I Decree-

I dwell in the midst of Infinite Abundance. The Abundance of God is my Infinite Source.

The River of Life never stops flowing. It flows through me into lavish expression. Good comes to me through unexpected avenues and God works in a myriad of ways to bless me.

I now open my mind to receive my good. Nothing is too good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to have happen. With God as my Source, Nothing amazes me.

I am not burdened by thoughts of past or future. One is gone. The other is yet to come.

By the power of my belief, coupled with my purposeful fearless actions and my deep rapport with God, my future is created and my abundance made manifest.

I ask and accept that I am lifted in this and every moment into Higher Truth. My mind is quiet.

From this day forward I give freely and fearlessly into life and Life gives back to me with magnificent increase. Blessings come in expected and unexpected ways. God provides for me in wondrous ways.

I AM indeed grateful. And I let it be so.

 

The greater the energy and intent we channel into our words, the more ‘real’ and powerful they become. Do swap out words such as God – for Creator, Goddess or Divine Spirit, or whatever you believe…

Blessed be.

Manifest! To make things happen in alignment with your will.

 

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com

 

The Wisdom of Albert Einstein

The Wisdom of Albert Einstein

The Wisdom of Albert Einstein - spirituality and profound success


be a man of value - einstein


einstein curiosity and value , make life worthwhile

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com

 

 

 

Strengthen Your Psychic Ability

Strengthen Your Psychic Ability

Moments of insight, flashes of understanding and intuitive perception seem to come when you least expect them to. All of a sudden you have a surreal moment of insight and your perception is illuminated. I’m talking about those ‘aha aaa’ moments,  where everything now makes sense to you. Under this umbrella also fall the ‘gut’ feelings or intuitions that we all get, strong (weird) urges to avoid particular circumstances or situations, sudden desires or ‘needs’ to see or connect with loved ones, and so forth.­­­

The way these moments of intelligence flash thru our consciousness unbidden,  can make us feel that this source of intelligence is  beyond our human ability to control and, or understand. This is not the case though, it’s just that as a society we do not place a focus on developing this area in the mainstream. Remember though; we are all spiritual beings, and every one of us has the ability to connect to spirit, develop our connection to ‘creator’ and strengthen our intuitive gifts.

Whilst there are many methods and techniques for developing each and every aspect of your spirituality,  I will only refer to those that I know, through personal experience, do work, and are also accessible to all. Following is one of the most straightforward and simple ways to do so – everyone will be capable of this, and there is no need for any financial outlay. The absolute best way I have found to switch on my intuition, is by asking questions and ‘feeling’ for answers.

I go somewhere quiet by myself and I start asking questions and noting the answers and feelings I get when I ask them. For example; “what am I picking up on that is making me feel so anxious or worried today?” , “What can I do to bring myself peace of mind today/ this week?” “How can I create fun/harmony/co-operation at home and minimise tensions?”Develop: Psychic Ability - Strengthen your intuitive and psychic gifts with this simple exercise

“What 3 things are bothering my daughter/husband/best-friend right now?” “What can I do, say, or affirm for this person that will help them and increase their sense of happiness?” “Spending time with which people will be the most rewarding for me?”, and so forth.

Pay attention to any images, feelings, inner whispers, “aha” moments, or dreams that come later during the week. These are most easily recognisable signs that you are directing your focus successfully and that you are receiving ‘answers’ to your questions. For some this process of quiet or meditative thought is challenging. To assist you in remaining focused you might want to have your questions written out in front of you so that you can look at them whilst ‘asking’ about them. You might find it grounding to hold an item that is symbolic to you of your spirituality. A crystal, an object belonging to the person you’ve got concerns over, a candle to centre your view upon, or something that allows you a sense of comfort or security from its touch.

It is best to keep a diary and record your experiences. It is fine to be brief, but do record the ‘questions’ you’ve asked and how you felt as you put them forth to spirit. During the days that follow note down your residual feelings and how each of the situations you ‘asked’ about have developed and what insight or senses you’ve had regarding them. After a few weeks you will have captured your initial dialogue with spirit and it will be a meaningful document for you to reflect upon in the development of your intuitive abilities and your connection to your spirit guides.

Amber| http://www.intothesoul.com

Melt Down

Melt Down

As everyone who has them knows… Young children, from the get-go, are a leading cause of insanity in otherwise ‘stable’ (term used loosely) people. For those who identify; I give you Michael McIntyre.

Not a cure, not a how-to, and nothing preachy. The opposite of all the remedies, schools of discipline and every other piece of advice you’ve ever received. This is empathy and understanding and a reminder that it’s not just you …. so please watch, its hilarious. And, if you’ve seen it already, watch it again.

I watch this religiously on ‘bad’ days (and hang out with my friend alcohol). Any time child-induced heart palpitations rumble, or my brain starts melting – I’ve got it dialled.
This clip is in my phone, my playlists, the spoilt children’s iPad’s, and everywhere else I can save it to.

There’s something so comforting in knowing you’re not alone… I think?

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Thanks (so many thanks) to Michael McIntyre

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com

The Secret Allure of Bad Boys

The Secret Allure of Bad Boys
The appeal of the Bad Boy

You’ve got your life together. You’re smart, independent, attractive and fun… You have a good sense of humour and you aren’t hard up for a date. Yet there’s a habit of yours that keeps on getting you in trouble. You love the bad boys.

It makes no sense to you really … but you can’t help it. When you try to explain it you realise it’s crazy… but its out of your control… There’s something that instinctively draws you to a certain kind of guy… that even you know, (because you’ve been here before) is going to hurt you.

You have a 6th sense that can detect the presence of a bad boy before you’ve even laid eyes on him – you’d know him anywhere. He’s got an edge and an energy that draws you like a magnet to him. He’s electric, he’s rebellious, he’s half-loner, half Mr Popularity… He has his own take on the world, and he pushes the envelope – right to the very edge of the boundaries. He’s always looking for something, and there’s an undefinable restless, unsatisfied quality to him.

Your friends don’t love. They like him, and he’s fun, they’d just prefer he left you alone. They tell you that your new “great guy” is arrogant, or brash, a bit of a ‘kid’ and seems (at least) slightly unappreciative. They keep asking you if he’s called, is he reliable?

Of course you don’t see it that way. You’re take is so different. You view him as sooo masculine, edgy, sexy exciting, unconventional — and all in a good way. He’s such a turn-on. There’s no comparison between him and other guys. He has “IT”.

Yes, those other guys are nice, but they’re, so boring. You just don’t ‘feel attracted’. Why even be with a guy if the adrenaline isn’t pumping? You want chemistry, you want to feel, you want to be under his spell… if you’re not, it’s just a waste of your time.

So what is the draw of the bad boy?

What makes them so attractive, and even addictive, to some women?

He’s Exciting

  • When you’re with this guy life is never dull. You feel alive and you’re on edge.
  • You don’t know what to expect from him. Plans always change, nothing can be taken for granted, and you really don’t know what he’s thinking or feeling. He makes you laugh.
  • He keeps you interested. River Phoenix: The appeal of the Bad BoyHe’s an instant cure for the ho-hum of everyday life.

No run-of-the-mill guy

  • The man is exciting. He’s an individual, and he keeps you guessing. The thought of him melts you.
  • He has a unique way of doing things. His unconventionality turns you on, and perversely so does his unreliability. It feels masculine. It feels powerful.
  • He feels like a real guy should be. Not wimpy –  like so many other guys. True, his adventures can frighten you. But they also thrill you. And isn’t that what life is all about? Exciting experiences you’ll remember forever!

The bad boy is an enticing mix

  • He’s so confident, and so strong-minded… You think that he knows what he wants, and he’s definitely got a one track mind… it’s all about him.
  • He’s independent… He doesn’t care what others think.
  • He’s a sweet talker, so charming… He knows how to get what he wants.
  • He’s mysterious… you still can’t figure him out.

To sum it all up, the “bad boy” is a thrill and he makes you feel alive and young and turned on. And the more blah your own life is, the more alluring he seems.

So what’s the problem then? Unfortunately, there’s more than one:

What happens when you grow up but the bad boy doesn’t?

His enthusiasm for risk and adventure hasn’t diminished. His ability to be reliable, and accountable is just where it always was… nowhere. He’s still into risky stuff and still pushing the boundaries, and you’re long past that stage.

What used to seem enticing now seems half-baked, frustrating, and at times plainly ridiculous. His antics no longer seem unfamiliar and exciting. Rather, they have become all too familiar and dim-witted.

What happens when the bad boy’s pranks begin to feel more menacing than masculine?

His actions have put you in harm’s way more than once. And these days you’d really prefer to feel safe with him, maybe even protected by him. You’ve got a real hankering for your bad boy to be reliable … and it seems unlikely to ever happen.

What happens when your bad boy turns into a bad guy? James Dean - the ultimate rebellious, sexy, magnetic bad boy

When his shrugging off what others think becomes he doesn’t care what you think? When his lack of respect for rules becomes blowing off rules you consider essential to your relationship? When his unconventional behaviour that used to excite you becomes behaviour that creates anxiety for you?

Though bad boy antics may be attractive when “boys” are entering adulthood, beware of what happens when bad boys reach maturity and full adulthood.

The point is this – keep your eyes open, and don’t kid yourself. When you play with bad boys, you know what you’re getting yourself in for… don’t allow yourself any illusions here. It’s a time limited relationship – even most bad girls, will emotionally outgrow the bad boy. It’s just a matter of time.

Food for thought: Are you drawn to partners who are emotionally unavailable? If you are, a relationship with a bad boy is something you are likely to find yourself drawn towards…

Amber | www.intothesoul.com

 

Great big sloppy kisses and a bit of Darwinism

Great big sloppy kisses and a bit of Darwinism

Great big sloppy kisses and a bit of Darwinism

“There is no fundamental difference between man and animals in their ability to feel pleasure and pain, happiness, and misery.”
– Charles Darwin

True beauty tends to be found in the simplest and most unaffected moments of our lives. There are many honourable and noteworthy characteristics to be observed within humankind. Specifically the desire (of most) to bond with and take care of those around us.

It is in the nature of our caring that the most genuine side of our selves is revealed. These are amongst the time’s when our spirit, ‘our inner self’, steps forth, and leads us. We, the earth-bound spirit learn as we are ‘guided’ through such experiences. This is how we come to know real compassion, love and empathy.

Caring for and seeking to love those who are around us is one of the most noteworthy and poignant characteristics of human beings and similarly of animal beings.

Look at this beautiful image. Two connecting in this captured moment as one. Hearts and souls recharged in a perfect and special moment of connection and feeling for one another.

Isn’t this what life is about? Don’t even try and tell me this isn’t love …. look at that face!! Love is love, whether its your mother, best friend, husband, dog , child or rabbit … Nothing is more special or affirming … and I have to say, that from what I can see, the animals are the ones who love the most easily and deeply. We have a lot to learn from these special friends.

Be kind to animals – they deserve every ounce of your compassion and kindness.

Amber | http://www.intothesoul.com